Notes on 'The Man's Guide to Women'

Here are some highlights and notes from my reading of The Man’s Guide to Women: Scientifically Proven Secrets from the Love Lab About What Women Really Want.

01 What Do Women Really Want? Understanding a Woman’s Heart

In the process of men and women interacting, the behaviors that make women feel you are trustworthy are as follows: keeping your promises, being consistent in your words and actions, being reliable, having a sense of responsibility, and being able to truthfully show who you are.

Note: agreed

Being trustworthy means not only protecting a woman’s body or her children, but also protecting her heart.

Simply put, listening is sexier than talking, and asking questions is more attractive than boasting.

A man needs to fully express his attention to his wife; he needs to turn his body toward her; he needs to understand her; he also needs to listen non-defensively; he needs to be able to empathize. He does not need to solve the problem, he does not need to think rationally, he does not need to theorize about the problem, and he does not need to try to solve his wife’s emotional problems.

The Good Man’s Memo

03 The Rules of Male Attraction: Understanding Women and Attraction

Confidence comes from your affirmation of your own abilities, while arrogance comes from your insecurity.

10 Learn to Fight Like a Girl: Understanding Women and Conflict

Women get angry for three reasons: powerlessness, injustice, or the irresponsibility of others.

You can suppress anger in three ways: deep breathing, counting from 1 to 10, and taking a break to relax.

If your partner criticizes you, she is actually very much in pain. Your task is to find the source of her pain through the following three questions: What are your needs? What are you worried about? How do you feel?

14 Natural Born Mothers: Understanding Women and Children

All love begins with maternal love and ends with maternal love.

15 Spending a Lifetime Together: Lifelong Love

The difference between a good man and a stupid man is that a good man always maintains curiosity about his partner’s inner world, constantly wanting to explore her hopes, fears, and dreams.

The 6-second kiss. Every time you part, whether you are getting ready for work, grocery shopping, or going to the gym, please kiss your partner goodbye for 6 seconds. Not 1 second, not 2 seconds, but 6 seconds.